I am blessed to be a woman that has experienced working in both a corporate environment and in entrepreneurial capacities. Over the years, I built on an innate ambition to achieve in both capacities, and each year my compensation reflected my diligence and hard work. However, the advantages of these returns were not evident because of one missing variable: submission.
Under my previous naïve mindset, I would not have grasped how a lack of submission impacted the dynamics of my marriage. I understood that a woman of virtue would submit to her spouse, but I did not grasp what true submission looked like. I thought that my approach to household chores while balancing the demands of my career and our business was me submitting to my husband.
After all, I was not opposed to maintaining the “more traditional” approach to wifehood. I maintained a clean house, I cooked, and I did laundry. I had to meet the specification of a submissive wife with these approaches. In my journey to virtue, I would soon learn that I was demonstrating behaviors that hindered our marriage from being what we so desired for it to be which was kingdom.
Thus, I maintained debt and continued to struggle despite having a great income. All because I lacked the willingness to heed the instructions of my husband through submission in all aspects.
I thought keeping our finances separate was protecting him, but my role was not to be the covering; it was to be covered. Here my carnal, modern woman mindset of “having my own bag,” was actually opening doors to stagnancy because my actions kept us from achieving the epitome of oneness. After all, did God not call us to be one flesh?
When God called me out of the corporate world, I soon learned that the issue is not who brought in the resources but a woman’s willingness to maintain her submissive standpoint with the decision-making and allocation of resources. A man needs to maintain his role of headship no matter how the ratio of income generation amongst spouses is because we have been instructed to submit to them in obedience to God.
The moment I humbled myself so my husband could lead, I saw the true potential of our union. I now had given room for him to effectively allocate what we earned to the betterment of our household. Being the main earner is not the concern but being the ultimate decision-maker should be. It’s not that we negate the wife’s input after all it’s a team effort as one flesh, but ultimately, as the head, he is responsible for determining how his household should function.
Written by Thalia Ottun
Canada
This is Powerful! God bless you Thalia…
“I thought keeping our finances separate was protecting him, but my role was not to be the covering; it was to be covered. Here my carnal, modern woman mindset of “having my own bag,” was actually opening doors to stagnancy because my actions kept us from achieving the epitome of oneness.”
This right here is what is keeping alot of stagnant!